Guessing

Is it wrong to keep the guy guessing I wondered to myself as I sat on my bed late one night

I came up with the answer mostly no and a lil yes depending on the extent of mystery your exuding lol

In the case I was thinking about with the guy I was making guess and trying to figure my inner workings out it was a totally plausible game plan as far as I am concerned

Reason one a lil too clingy so it created a little bit of space for me

Reason two I wasn't sure if I wanted to delve into a relationship so again more space less attachment

Reason three when a guy likes you and can't completely read you it keep mystery and a veil about you which is exciting because they never fully know with you

I could keep going with the reasons why it's good but now for the reasons why it can sometimes be bad

Reason one you could make the guy feel unwanted which is never good you don't want to hurt his feelings

Reason two he could become bored and think your playing games treating him like a yo-yo and then you lose your Mr. or have a possible confrontation which is never good

So you really have to feel out the guy and the situation and choose carefully the amount of guessing you want him to do and really think about the reason you want your guy to be guess like:

-your bored so you wanna play with his emotions(that's a no go)

-your wanting to test how much he likes you(not the best reason but if he's made you doubt his caring maybe a lil guessing to see if he's interested in figuring you out still is ok if careful about it)

-if he's clingy and you change things up like per-say don't let him sleepover two nights in a row(totally fine in my book)

My situation I had to keep our pattern ever changing just so things didn't get too deep to fast

I thought about explaining that I needed time to think about everything but in the past guys have not liked that at all and my friend told me in what I said the guys pretty much heard I want to keep you on the back burner until I know someone better isn't gonna show up

So this time I just made a little bit of mystery about myself and intentions instead of being and open book and honest and have the guy translate what I said into something so far from what I meant

Rush Much?

It's kind of strange and confusing for me right now.
Most people refer to chicks as being desperate and fast when it comes to relationships.
But I've come across so many guys that have just tried to tie me down into a relationship with them.
I don't know maybe I'm the abnormal one but I think it takes more then one or two dates to decide to enter a relationship.
Truth be told I think the reason the guys are trying to make things move so fast isn't really about sex, it's about being alone.
I can appreciate getting a bit lonesome at times but i'd rather be lonely then stuck in a bad relationship again.

It's just really funny people wonder why there in unhappy relationship and there mismatched.
The big one why there partner is looking somewhere else.
Maybe it's because there unhappy with the lack of common ground and all the tension from the differances.
What do people expect when you rush into something with rose colored glasses just because there lonely or horny.
The sad part is if you want to take something slow to actually see what you might be getting into you get criticized.
At least from my experiences so far iv been told I just wasn't interested, that i'm playing games and threatened.
Seriously just from wanting to know someone better before I decide to date them.

So now I ask myself and you what happened to all the sane non-clingy excuse my language "non-bitch" like men?

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