Is it wrong to keep the guy guessing I wondered to myself as I sat on my bed late one night
I came up with the answer mostly no and a lil yes depending on the extent of mystery your exuding lol
In the case I was thinking about with the guy I was making guess and trying to figure my inner workings out it was a totally plausible game plan as far as I am concerned
Reason one a lil too clingy so it created a little bit of space for me
Reason two I wasn't sure if I wanted to delve into a relationship so again more space less attachment
Reason three when a guy likes you and can't completely read you it keep mystery and a veil about you which is exciting because they never fully know with you
I could keep going with the reasons why it's good but now for the reasons why it can sometimes be bad
Reason one you could make the guy feel unwanted which is never good you don't want to hurt his feelings
Reason two he could become bored and think your playing games treating him like a yo-yo and then you lose your Mr. or have a possible confrontation which is never good
So you really have to feel out the guy and the situation and choose carefully the amount of guessing you want him to do and really think about the reason you want your guy to be guess like:
-your bored so you wanna play with his emotions(that's a no go)
-your wanting to test how much he likes you(not the best reason but if he's made you doubt his caring maybe a lil guessing to see if he's interested in figuring you out still is ok if careful about it)
-if he's clingy and you change things up like per-say don't let him sleepover two nights in a row(totally fine in my book)
My situation I had to keep our pattern ever changing just so things didn't get too deep to fast
I thought about explaining that I needed time to think about everything but in the past guys have not liked that at all and my friend told me in what I said the guys pretty much heard I want to keep you on the back burner until I know someone better isn't gonna show up
So this time I just made a little bit of mystery about myself and intentions instead of being and open book and honest and have the guy translate what I said into something so far from what I meant
